Start attracted to the opposite sex and wants to look attractive is normal as a teenager. The teens also want to feel courtship and falling in love. However, not many teenagers who understand how healthy dating. According to psychologist Roslina Verauli, courtship activities intended as a familiar activity between two people who are attracted to each other. According to some research, courtship activities aimed among others to have fun, get to know the opponent kind of deeper, extending the association network, up to the social status alone. Verauli said, not all dating is based on feelings of love. "There is also a courtship activities were done for financial reasons because it can obtain a variety of facilities for free, aka bermodus," says child and adolescent psychologist's.
No doubt, the current style of teenage dating is increasingly permissive. Hugging, kissing, grope, even sexual relations, is considered as a form of affection towards the opposite sex. "The knowledge of sex among adolescents is still lacking, causing a false perception. The teens are still not able to distinguish between love, sex, and dating. They are still assume that sex is a manifestation of love, "he said. In line with Verauli, psychologist Anna Surti Ariani or familiarly called Nina, also emphasized the importance of sexual knowledge. "Teenagers need to have the knowledge that what is the effect if he had sex. He also must have confidence that her precious, not to be vandalized or dirugkan in ways like that, "said Nina. Confidence to keep themselves and others also need to be owned by teenagers. "I appreciate my body that I do not want to harm my body, I also appreciate other people's bodies. Respect each other as God's creation, "he added. As the primary educators for children, parents should not consider sex a taboo to talk about.
Indeed if the parents are closed, children will seek information from sources that are not obvious, such as from the internet or from friends. Communication on reproductive health and healthy courtship of course be done through continuous discussion, starting from pre-school children until their teens. Of course, in a style and theme after the age of the child. Courtship healthy also means not only avoiding sexual stimulation or intercourse alone, but also do not want any physical harm psychic. Parents and children can also agree on the rules of dating or relationships with the opposite sex, such restrictions should not be violated, and which can still be negotiated. Explain what the consequences jka child violated.
